How not to Spoil Children
Sunday, February 18th, 2007A spoiled child is one of a parent’s sacrifices. Not because he demands for what he wants, but because he will grow into a person that’s not what parents thought he is supposed to be. Other people say that you can prevent spoiling a child by not giving him what he wants and holding him close all day. But this is nonsense.
To love a child does not mean to spoil him. The problem here is how to define love.
To love a child is to spank him, for him to learn. The kind of spank that he won’t burry in his mind forever. And try to explain to him why you have to do such a thing. To give his demands is good but in other times, try to tell him that you can’t give that material thing, that it’s a waste of money or such. Ofcourse children won’t appreciate right away the value of money. Give him a piggybank. Teach him how to save and to be thrifty over his money. And when he brought what he wanted after a long time of spending, he’ll understand why you didn’t bring that toy he demanded last month. Saving money is not just for grown kids, even for three year olds. Tell him many kids out there haven’t eaten a lot. Tell him many kids out there don’t have toys. Teach him to share so he won’t be selfish.
As to infants, it’s not actually about a spoiled child. In these ages, a child actually seeks for comfort. Even achild’s thumb or his toy car provides him cofort. Give him the kind of comfort he needs. But if he goes wild and obviously getting a little demanding and self- centered, try to explain to him or spank him. Like a pet, repetition is a good training. Never show infants your mad face saying mad words. Remember, parents are children’s first influence.